If a cat dies, whether due to illness, accident or old age, the owner is facing a hard time. The death of a cat for many cat lovers means a similar grief as the death of a loved one. It is important that mourners receive the proper assistance of friends and family members - but here also relatives can do a lot wrong.
If you have friends, acquaintances, or family members who have to cope with the death of their cat, it is important that you provide assistance and / or find the right words. Equally important, however, is to forego the wrong words. Below are three classics nobody wants to hear after his cat dies.
1. "It was only a cat"
Some people can not empathize with the situation of a real animal lover or do not know what it means to build a close bond with an animal. For someone who loved his cat, it might not be "just" a cat, but a beloved creature. A cat does not have to be emotionally less important than a human, and the death of the animal can hit its owner accordingly.
2. "When will you get a new cat?"
This ill-considered sentence is often heard when someone is comforted after the death of a cat. However, he is extremely insensitive. A cat, like other beloved creatures, can not simply be replaced by another cat. It's similar with humans: If someone loses a friend, they can not simply look for a new friend to overcome their grief.
3. "You really had the cat for a long time"
... or alternatively: "Cats do not get that old." Of course, cats do not live as long as humans and go before us. But that is clear to every owner and should not be rubbed smartly after the death of the velvet paw under his nose. No matter if old or young died - the loss and the associated grief can not be diminished by age.
So you can help mourners
Be empathetic and do not play down the death of a cat. It is important that you are there for the mourner and support him emotionally. If you can not think of anything you can say, you better say nothing but something rash. A simple "I'm here for you" or "I'm very sorry" usually helps a lot.